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Published on:   Oct 03, 2008 at 09:46 AM
News Source: Five Towns Jewish Times By Rabbi Yair Hoffman
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New York - We are well aware of the dictum “U’teshuvah, u’tefillah, u’tzedakah ma’avirin es ro’a ha’gezeirah”—“Penance, prayer, and charity will remove the bad decree.” There are books on how exactly to repent, and there are plenty of siddurim and machzorim with beautiful translations. The question is, to whom do we give our charity money?

Our mailboxes (and telephone poles) are inundated with picturesque flyers about various tzedakos. There are pictures of gedolim writing checks to various organizations on these flyers. Some tzedakos have full-color 16-page brochures filled with stories about what a wonderful tzedakah organization it is. Do these organizations have precedence over our local yeshivos? Where does one’s brother-in-law who works in chinuch fit in to all this? What are the best tzedakahs in terms of halachah? Do the poskim enumerate a pecking order as to which tzedakos or which aniyim (poor people) we should give to first?

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A recent work printed in Yerushalayim by Rabbi Avrohom Moshe Zemmel, entitled “Ahavas Tzedakah,” provides us with just such a list.

There are three types of tzedakah where the phrase “kodemes lakol” (it precedes everything else) is employed. The three types are:

1. Charity given to a Torah educational institute whose very existence is threatened with closure and the future of Torah for K’lal Yisrael, the Jewish People, is at stake. There are only three things for which we must sacrifice our lives—to avoid the sins of murder, arayos, and idol worship. Yet we see that Rabbi Akiva sacrificed his life in order to teach Torah. How could this be? The answer is that it involved the future of Torah for the Jewish People. (This is based upon the words of the Birchas Shmuel in his introduction to tractate Bava Basra.)

2. Charity given to save a Jew from conversion in a situation where it is permissible to violate the Shabbos in order to save him (see Orach Chaim 306:14).

3. Charity given to save a life—or to possibly save a life—i.e., pikuach nefesh.

Regarding charity for the poor, the precedence is as follows:

• A poor person who is a relative receives precedence over a poor person who is unrelated. (Of course, if he will starve, the hungry poor person comes first.) A related poor person takes priority over the unrelated poor person even if the unrelated one is a Torah scholar (see Rabbi Akiva Eiger, Y.D. 251:3).

Ah, but which relative “beats” the other relatives in a “claim” for charity? Are there criteria as to which relative should be supported first?

The answer, of course, is, yes.

• The first relative that deserves one’s charity is yourself. If you cannot make a living, you should not be giving to others before yourself. This is based upon the pasuk “V’chai achicha imach—and your brother shall live with you”; your existence comes first (Tur, Yoreh Deah, chapter 251, citing Rav Saadya Gaon).

• The next relative is one’s parents. A father and mother come before anyone else.

• A son and daughter come next.

• A brother and sister come next.

• A paternal sibling comes before a maternal sibling.

• One’s spouse’s relatives come before strangers.

• One’s ex-spouse comes before others (see Rema 119:8).

• A talmid chacham (Torah scholar) non-relative precedes a non-relative who is not a talmid chacham, even if the talmid chacham is not from one’s own city.

• Unrelated poor people from one’s own city precede poor people from another city—but not when the poor of another city have greater needs (see Y.D. 251:3 and Responsa Chasam Sofer Y.D. 234).

• The poor of Eretz Yisrael have precedence over the poor of another city, but not over the poor of one’s own city (see commentaries of Shach and Bach, Y.D. 251:6).

This last criterion is key. According to most poskim our local charitable cases beat out the poor of Eretz Yisrael. This would mean that the local Davis Memorial Fund would have precedence over the Israel charity cases. (There is, however, an opinion of the Debreciner Rav’s older brother, the BeTzel HaChochmah [Vol. IV, 163:16] that there are two mitzvos involved regarding the poor in Israel: the mitzvah of settling the Land as well as the mitzvah of tzedakah. He opines that the poor of Israel would beat out the poor in our own city. One should consult one’s rav, but the simple answer seems to be like the Shach and Bach, that the local poor people have precedence.)

What about where we have two equal relatives? Is there another criterion that comes into play? For example, if one has two siblings, both in need of assistance, which one comes first?

• The one who is a greater Torah scholar receives precedence over the other.

• The next criterion is based upon gender; a sister’s needs take precedence to a brother’s.

Are there different grades of talmidei chachamim? In other words, if there are two Torah scholars and one of them has a much wider breadth of knowledge but the other has a deeper breadth of knowledge, who precedes the other? The Vilna Gaon (Shulchan Aruch 251:18) cites the Talmud Yerushalmi that the breadth-of-knowledge scholar receives precedence to the depth-of-knowledge scholar.

It is important to note that one should make every effort possible to avoid supporting one’s parents with tzedakah money. The Gemara tells us (Kiddushin 32a) that a curse should come upon a person who supports his parents through money that is destined for charity. This means that the money he should spend on them should be aside from money that he should give to charity. Of course, if there is no other option—if he cannot afford to give both—then there is nothing wrong with giving to his parents. The Talmud is only referring to a case where a person could have afforded to do otherwise.

There are also other criteria for priority of tzedakah:

• Pidyon shvuyim (redeeming captives) is primary.

• Supporting a mikveh, in a place where there is no other mikveh and there is a chance that people will stumble in prohibitions that involve kareis—takes precedence over supporting a yeshiva.

• Charity so that children can study Torah is next (i.e., a yeshiva).

• There is a debate as to whether tzedakah to run the day-to-day activity in the beis ha’knesses (for example, the electricity bill) receives precedence over tzedakah to poor people. The Shulchan Aruch (Y.D. 251:16) rules that the synagogue needs come first, while the Vilna Gaon (Y.D. 251:20) rules that the poor people receive precedence. Clearly, everyone agrees that it is only the day-to-day activities being discussed and not the building fund (see Aruch HaShulchan, ibid). Indeed, Rav Vosner questions how some institutions can be requesting tzedakah funds to build beautiful edifices when there are poor people who are literally starving.

• The issue of need is also important. If one person needs money now while another needs it later, Rav Moshe Feinstein writes that the more pressing need takes precedence (Igros Moshe, Y.D. Vol. I, No. 144).

The bottom line is that tzedakah precedence and the decision of who to give to is not something that should be approached flippantly or without thought. Tzedakah is a limited resource (and, with the current financial crisis, it appears that it will become even more limited). One should keep in mind that there exist halachic criteria as to which receives precedence.

One last thought: Tzedakah should be given lishmah, with the best of intentions. It should not be done to impress anyone else—whether they be friends, family, or one’s rav or poseik. It should also be given b’seiver panim yafos—with a smile.


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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:00 AM Pinky Says:

Gevaldig!! Thank you!!, iv'e been looking for something like this for a long time. Kol Hamezake Es Hurabim Ein Cheit Bu Al Yudoy!

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:02 AM Anonymous Says:

It's very hard these days who doesn't have a Father/Mother or Sister/Brother or Son/Daughter that needs money ? there are so much needs these days like Food, Rent, clothing, Rent, Tuition, and more

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:04 AM Anonymous Says:

i believ that special children move to the top of the list even before torah schools and halavie we all will be givers

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:06 AM chaim36 Says:

In these very difficult times we need an agency to certify boanfide charities.The same holds true to those who collect DURING davening in all the shules.gmar tov................

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:36 AM Anonymous Says:

I personaly try to give at least something to everyone who asks.

I have a deal worked out with the RBS'O: I never look too closely at the worthiness of the person 'shnoring' during my davening and He doesn't look too carefully at the person doing the REAL shnoring during my davening..............

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:13 AM Anonymous Says:

ask your own rov first.

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 11:52 AM A Concerned Jew Says:

Someone once said that if everybody would give maaser (a tenth) for tzedokah then there would be more then enough to support all our needy and Synagogues and Kolellim and Mosdos.

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 12:16 PM Anonymous Says:

Take eg vaad harabonim, i never beleived in all the yeshua stories. To me t'was all bogus propaganda especially after hearing that 60% Went to rabonim alone... till a close relative of mine repeated 2 personal incidents happened to him by donating their i saw not so bogus any more. but i'm still wary to try there. rather a local known charity.

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 12:31 PM Anonymous Says:

Yasher Koach for printing this! It made my day! Thank you VIN!

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 12:49 PM Pinky Says:

#3 - feelings and Halacha are sometimes different
#5 - good :)
#7 - obviously that someone doesn't know what he's talking about ... do the math in your own shul.

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 01:19 PM Anonymous Says:

Reply to #3  
Anonymous Says:

i believ that special children move to the top of the list even before torah schools and halavie we all will be givers

On what basis? There are reasons to say just the opposite as well, such as that even after all the money they will still be very limited in their abilities. The only way to figure it out is from Halacha. If you don't know, ask someone who does.

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 02:08 PM torah jew Says:

Reply to #3  
Anonymous Says:

i believ that special children move to the top of the list even before torah schools and halavie we all will be givers

"I BELIEVE", he saying over halache, where does "I believe" come in?

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 02:32 PM torah jew Says:

Let's not forget the "highest modrayge" of tzdaka helping a yid have parnaseh that he shouldn't have 2 come on 2 other pepole. SH"U Y"D 249-6.
(buy from a yid even when a bit more expensive is great way of tzdaka. don't know the halache when u r reqired 2 do so).

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 03:03 PM Anonymous Says:

I completly dont understand what #3 meant ,
Who is `I Believe
Are you Shulchon Urich?

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 04:36 PM Chaim Yankel Says:

What about helping out someone before they become poor? Also, helping someone in finding a job. Check the Rambam. This was poorly written and presented, IMO.

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 05:03 PM been there Says:

how about checking out where the tzedaka money is coming from. should also be important. How many big baal tzedaka treat their workers like avadiim not providing health care or paying a livable salary, how about nursing home bigshots who are feeding non frum yidden tarfus just because they don't know better and what about the owners of the therapy agencies who will not pay their therapists and aides for 9 weeks because the money hasn't come in from the state.as far as I know someone works for you you are mechyiv to take out a loan to pay your workers on time. Mind you these are all the "shentza" yidden in the frum community. och & vay

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 05:21 PM i believe Says:

Reply to #12  
torah jew Says:

"I BELIEVE", he saying over halache, where does "I believe" come in?

i asked a rav and he said one hundred percent the people who nebech can not help themselves take precedence

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 Oct 03, 2008 at 05:20 PM close the kollels Says:

Reply to #7  
A Concerned Jew Says:

Someone once said that if everybody would give maaser (a tenth) for tzedokah then there would be more then enough to support all our needy and Synagogues and Kolellim and Mosdos.

just let the top 5 percent stay in kolel after2 years and after 10 they need to become rabbis or teachers
let the other 95 percent earn a living

wow what a concept it would help the econic situation of jews and marraiges would be better off as the husband would actually help and the wife wouldnt be run off her feet
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in addition it has become a joke that the guys really dont learn and it messes up shidduchim and many other things while a good hard working boy who learns and gives tzedoka is overlooked by people who want a learner but forget the mench part

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 Oct 04, 2008 at 05:27 PM Snag Says:

number 1 on the list, if there are 20, 40 or 60 other moisdos in town, this should drop out of at least the top 20 priorities.

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 Oct 04, 2008 at 05:00 PM Anonymous Says:

I dont believe that 60% of kupat hair money goes to Rabbamin but what I definatly know is that in times of trouble if you give money almost instantly you see a yeshua

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 Oct 04, 2008 at 02:49 PM yeapb Says:

My sister donated a small amount to me in a time of great trouble and saw a tremendous yeshuo, she felt that a poor family member was more worthy than kupat hair and would produce just as great miracles!
On the other hand my brother donated to Kupat hair coz if he isn't helped - cholilo - he has a whole list of rabbonim to complain to!!

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 Oct 04, 2008 at 09:20 PM Anonymous Says:

At a recent shiur that was given by two rabanim on the topic of tzedaka it was stated that tzedaka starts at home.

In your own communities there are plenty of problems. Give tzedaka to your own brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces if they need it.

It's a terrible machla that people who have money distribute it to places so they can get their name of walls and have people talk how great they are for giving millions.

There was a recent story about a person who owns a store in Brooklyn and how the owner donated 1 million dollars to an organization. It's all very nice but it would have been a greater mitzvah to keep it out of a newspaper and with one million dollars hundreds of people who can't put food on a table would have been able to have food on the table with a small git for yom tov.

With an economy that is terrible and thousands of yidden out of jobs it was not proper for a person to donate that much to one organization when he could have helped hundreds if not thousands of people including the organization that he gave.

There are familes that are literally starving and can't put food ont he table. If people want to do good with their money start by helping your own communities first and help a few different organizations so everyone benefits.

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 Oct 04, 2008 at 09:44 PM Snag Says:

"but what I definatly know is that in times of trouble if you give money almost instantly you see a yeshua"

Definitely Know? Definitely Know?

You are a liar or an ignoramus.

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 Oct 05, 2008 at 02:30 AM Anonymous Says:

I will not debate whether Kupat Hair is a worthy charity nor will I attempt to figure out how much of the money goes to the rabbanim.

However, the problem with Kupat Hair (and Vaad Laniyei Eretz Yisroel) is the message they convey - although it may be indirect.

The Torah promises rewards for giving charity. Period. The Torah has no favoritism. Of course, as the article details, there are halachos regarding precedence. But the never ending PR propaganda campaigns by these organizations - that if you want to get help you should donate to them - eventually instills a feeling of waste when considering donating elsewhere. Yes, donating to them is deserving of the Torah's rewards promises, but the same is true when donating to any other charity as well; be it Tomche Shabbos, Bikur Cholim, or other. To convey a message that if you need help, or to be mezake bdin on Rosh Hashanah, you need to donate to them is simply wrong.

To those who will argue that the donor still has the choice of where to donate, the answer is no. Unrelenting repetition, coming in the form of mailings, newspaper inserts, street signs, shul table booklets, etc., has the power of forming this phenomenom that you must donate to them to get helped. The proof is out there - especially with the women. When people are in a clutch, the most common response is "let's donate to Kupat Hair". Kupat Hair is nice but so are all the other wonderful organizations.

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 Oct 05, 2008 at 08:00 PM seen it all Says:

The first priority in tzedakah is our own family. That includes our children's chinuch which is a chiyuv on us, not the school (V'shinantan L'vonechoh, your son). If you do not pay full tuition, I don't see how you can give tzedakah to an instituition in EY. Moreover, if you do pay full, and the school is behind in payroll, ask a rov if you have to give to the teacher first so he can have a "rooige kup" to be mechanech your children. L'aniyas daati, this doesn't preclude giving to a shnorrer in shul a dollar or a quarter, that might fall into kol haposhet yodoi noisnim loi, but even a nickel is yotzai for that.

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