Lakewood, NJ – A camp counselor who worked at a program run at a Lakewood private school has
been arrested on charges that he sexually assaulted a young boy.
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the man of Lakewood, worked as a camp counselor at Yachad, a summer camp based out of Bais Hatorah School on Swathmore Drive, was arrested Sunday, authorities said.
He was charged with aggravated sexual assault, sexual assault and endangering the welfare of a child.
Authorities said the criminal activity occurred within the past year, and the victim was a boy under the age of 13.
Bail for the counselor was set at $125,000 and if he is released on bail, he is not allowed to have contact with the victim or anyone else under the age of 18, according to the complaint.
Anyone with information about the case is asked to call Ocean County Prosecutor’s Office Senior Investigation Colleen Lynch in the special victims unit at 732-929-2027, Ext. 2905 or Lakewood Detective Thomas D’Elia at 732-363-0200.
Please note these are only allegations, an individual is innocent until proven otherwise in a court of law
What a chilul hashem to do a mesura. Shame on u all for doing this to a yiddishe bucher. A new thing evry one is busy with sex assult.
Is it something in the name?
This is obviously a tragic story that is happening way too much in our communities.
However, it is good to see that even in Lakewood where the “bays din” exists to “deal with” these problems, and rabbanim have still not publicly told parents to go to the police, parents are finally realizing that in order to stop child molesters, you must involve law enforcement.
Our sympathy and support must go out to the victim and his family, and any other victims, as pedophiles usually do not only abuse one child. If there is “community backlash” against the brave and moral actions of this boy, I would remind him of Rav Elyashiv’s psak and how he has been mekayem “tikkon ha’olam” and has saved the lives of many other children.
As to those who will, of course, claim that the molester is innocent, “because I know him and he would never do anything like that” it is high time to realize that in our community especially 13 year old boys almost never make these things up to the point of going to the police, due to the incredible stigma of being a victim and due to the danger of being caught lying. Those of us who work with both victims and perpetrators of sexual abuse should be trusted by now to tell you the sad truth. We need to start listening to our children or else they will not tell us even when they are hurt.
Asher Lipner, Ph.D.
Vice President of the Jewish Board of Advocacy for Children
Thank you parents for calling the POLICE to report an assault. This is the ONLY way to go.
why is it that whenever these stories come out, the ppl that know the ‘assaulter’ cannot believe for a moment that he is guilty and all the strangers are so quick to pick up on the gossip. would you believe it if i accused your father/brother/son of the same?
I am disgusted how this website can post his name and address,who said its true.And if it is true it still doesnt have 2 be publicized,he is a homosexual who is in dire need of help,poor family, how embarressing!!!!!
In response to 1:
On the contrary – it’s a mitzvah to expose these sick individuals!!! So many children have been detroyed because of pedephiles like this one.
There is no “mesura” on a RODEF
THANK GOD THE PAREANTS CALLED POLICE AND NOT THE RABBIS BEC THEY JUST PUSH EVERYTHIN UNDER THE TABLE
anyone who says its a mitzva to inform the public of the accused ones name should learn hilchos lashon hara
Brenda
Are you freakin serious!
what does this have to with homosexuality??
If he had done this to a girl under 13 it would be the same horror…
To #1 and #9 . It is obvious from your comments that you do not have children. On the contrary, this is the biggest mitzva that could possibly have been done.
#9 – This is the only way to deter this type of behavior. His picture should be posted as well.
Molesting a miner is a much bigger Avurh then Msirah or even Chulal Hshem
You know what?
As someone in mental health I can tell you….these molestations are pikuach nefesh. Those that are molested are dead inside…for life and sometimes commit suicide.
Last time I checked pikuach nefesh is doche EVERYTHING….including what Rabbonim might say.
Why is a 33 guy being a counsellor or boys. Something is wrong
In the early stages of this phenonmena to impact on the frum community, perhaps the rebbes and rabonim were the appropriate parties to be involved. Clearly, now the problem has become so vast, complicated, and numerous that clergy is not at all equipped to handle this problem, mcuh less, to stem the tide of this growing problem. Dozens of victims are being born each month and nobody is taking this problem seriously. Only law enforcement, in conjunction with, NOT in lieu of, clergy can attempt to reverse this growing problem.
Community Activist
Excellent job, Kuddos for the parents, we have to much menuvalim and ganovim in our communities .its time to make a stop to this and not protect gazlonim menuvalim and ganovim
lmaseh someone could accuse anybody for anything just to make money
It’s about time that somebody has common sense and went to the police rather than to his rabbi. We HAVE to expose every pedophile before they assault other kids and murder their Yiddishe Neshumah .
cant believe it took this long…
According to your own disclaimer, “these are only allegations, an individual is innocent until proven otherwise in a court of law”. So tell me: what separates this from the most dispicable loshon horoh imaginable? I noticed that you have changed the article from ther original one posted by using only the initials of the alleged perpetrator…but then later you mention his last name! Dispense with the sensationalism and refrain from posting innuendo. Wait until you have something genuine to report before dragging someone’s name through the mud b’rabim!
Its been the “in” thing”, for psychologists, therapists, and a well known politician, to go after people who have been arrested on charges. We live in the United States of America, where every man is innocent till proven guilty.
There was a story not too long ago, of a well known community individual who was arrested on child molestation charges. He was fired from his job, and publicly shamed on the radio, and on other “news websites”. the charges proved to be false, and this man was dropped of all charges. Not one person who came out against this individual, spoke out and apologized.
I would have to have lived a hundred years ago, to be in denial that there are sick people out there. I do believe that there are sick individuals out there who prey on innocent young children. “YK” is just not one of them…………
I believe in giving some people the benefit of the doubt, you see its the three weeks………… Just think if this person was YOUR brother………He’s someones brother. He just may be mine……………
The frum community has some very serious issues to confront and not learning 10 blatt of gemara a week is not the problem I am referring to. It is high time that serious measures be taken to maintain the kedusha of am yisroel. It means a lot more than sitting on a bench in the yeshiva.
nephew
to all of you who believe everything just wait untill someone accuses you or someone in your Family-then you will understand the meaning of Loshon Horah and how horrible it is for a Frum website to post this without any solid proof.
You are not guilty untill proven so . Nebach some people will come up to heaven with all their mitzvos and they will be denied olam habah for one stupid remark binei am vaidah. But don’t say you were not warned or that everybody else did it. The beis din shel maala may say ” there is room for everybody” ( but of course not all will go there)
Just because the name has links that does not mean anything . I mean what if my name were Becker does that mean that I bake?! BEWARE!
A few facts:
1) Child molesters can and do target special needs children and any otherwise ‘vulnerable’ children. Sleepaway camp is the easiest place to commit molestation, especially when the camp forbids contact with the child for weeks. Schools and day camps are also locales for abuse. Child molesters try to gain access to children, and hence work–or sometimes volunteer–in positions that bring them in contact with children on a regular basis.
2) Experts like Dr. Lipner know that the vast majority of child molesters can never be cured. At best, they can control their urges. Most molest hundreds if not thousands until caught. If a pediatrician was aware of prior suspected abuse cases, that pediatrician by law was obligated to inform the authorities of suspected abuse. His failure to do so was and is a crime. That person has no business being a doctor for our children if he will not protect them.
3) Denial is one of the common reactions to the shame that abuse triggers. Abusers count on such reactions.
4) Rav Elyashiv, shlita, the gadol ha’dor, counseling families to notify the police for cases of child abuse.
5) Kudos should go to V.I.N. for publicizing such a case, and thus encouraging other victims and their families to take immediate action to expose the pedophiles among us, and hence protect hundreds of potential future victims,
6) The damage done by child sexual molestation is enormous, and often life-long, in the great majority of cases, in my experience. The Torah speaks of a rodef as someone running after a youth for the purposes of molestation / rape. Is this not similar?
Please we need to be don lekav zechut.. The nine days are coming Just becuase he was accused and shares the same last name doesn’t mean he is guilty
mesira is somtimes actually a mitzvah to do, if the person is a gevar alim, or if beth din is powerless
There should be a law that prohibits the media from publishing names of criminal “suspects” unless and until they are proven guilty, just like they can’t publish rape victims, and for the same reasons. Don’t get me wrong, I am 100% for the fight against child molesters, it is a terrible crime and should be completely eradicated, but I also see the other side that some people might accused of crimes they never committed and their names can be ruined forever by the false claim. Shalom al Israel.
While I have no problem with informing authorities since frankly in this area daas torah is nogaya bidovar, its a shame to publisize these things. Remember, the victum gets anonimity why can’t the accused get the same until proven guilty?
As to proof, I would say DNA analyses or witnesses is required. Men go to the mikva!!!
My son goes to Yeshiva Orchos Chaim where this Kolko teaches. I am afraid that they will allow him back in the classroom the way that Torah Tmimah did with his uncle all those years, and the way that Satmar is doing now and Ner Yisroel has been doing with their molester.
Does anyone have any ideas of how this could be stopped? Especially since many posters hear don’t want to believe it and say its lashon harah, and the rabbis leave no coverup uncovered.
Is there a lawyer in the house, perhaps Elliot Pasik or Michael Lesher who could
advise us as concerned parents how to proceed if he is allowed back? Do we have to take our kids out and put them in a “safe” school? And what if it happens there? Is there no way for us to legally demand safety? Can we sue them for putting a charged sex offender in our kids’ classroom? Or is this what the Markey bill is all about?
i know someone who worked there also. does that mean we should watch out for him? g-d forbid!! we cannot believe such a story!!!!! Heaven help us all!! He IS an ehrliche yorei shamayim!!!!
In response to #82 :
If there is reasonable suspicion that someone represents a potential danger to your child, you are obligated ethically and according to the Torah to act to protect your child. Do not adopt a herd mentality, and do not rely on the administrators and principal etc when it comes to safety in this area.
They will R 16;buryR 17; their mistakes and go into defensive mode, to protect their institution, and due to their ignoranceR 11;or outright psychological denialR 11;will not investigate, but will use a common psychological heuristic (short cut) and choose to believe the alleged pedophile and blame the apparent victim. That is psychologically and administratively the easiest thing to do.
Pressure, and a lot of it, will also be put on the victim, and the family, by those too ignorant or too evil to know better or to care.
Do what you have to do to protect your child. That might mean getting together with other parents and threatening to withdraw a group of children, all at once, if the yeshiva lets someone is very possibly dangerous to children back into a teaching role.
In the area of child abuse, use SAFETY as your guideline. You do not need a Ph.D. or an M.D. or semicha to figure this out. This is common sense. This is the responsibility of each and every parent.
Be a parent. Protect your child.
To any so called frum people out there, whether you are FFB or BT, kippa srugah or leather, blue shirt or white shirt – you should all be put on notice that your chazzerfressing while our youth are being raped is over. You will no longer be able to exploit Torah values and hide behind your upshlugging and tisk tisking with code words like loshon horah and mesirah.
Every time one of you fake frum morons uses loshon horah as an excuse why not to report a child molestor, the Chofetz Chayim rolls over in his grave. The Torah wasn’t created to protect animals who rape our youth and get the jollies off by molesting our children.
All your learning is laughed at in shomayim when you cry mesirah as a reason not to report a child molestor. You might as well be driving on shabbos to church with a double cheeseburger in your mouth than thinking that someone who rapes a young boy should be dealt with by rabbonim and not put in prison.
It is a disgrace that Yudi Kolko was allowed for so long to rape the harem of boys that the pimp Margolis provided him, but now that he has been exposed, no one can look at that animal without mentally counting where their kids are and makling sure they are no where near this beheima.
I hope this guy in Lakewood has a long time to think about what he’s done. And if he’s innocent, I’d rather see him incarcerated and then released so that while there is a doubt as to his ability to be near children he is locked away with no chance of harming anyone. Its about time that the children, and not the accused molestors, were given the benefit of the doubt.
And to all the gekroizeled peyis twirling freaks out there, and all the beards that bury their head in the sand, go learn the leining for Yom Kippur Mincha to see what kind of animals exist in the frimme velt, then make a fool out of yourself claiming so and so would never do such a thing.
Make sure the accusations are true then break his legs,hands,and nose,then call the police thats how we in vizhnitz do it
You know who im talking to. You tried to destroy out school, you were miztair an almuna, you mosered , I was just waiting when it would happen back to you, I didnt think it would happen this fast
If your child was molested. CALL THE POLICE! Please do this before more children are molested!!!! Why do we need to be reminded to do this??
A few important facts are being over looked here:
We know that rarely does anyone claim they have been abused when they havent, the incident rate world wide is lower than .5%.
Not everyone who has been abused goes on to abuse, BUT 99% of abusers where abused themselves.
To all you “erlicher yidden” out there who are so concerned, what happened to innocent until proven guilty? You can stay away from him if you’d like, but some of these responses are real winners. It makes me realize why moshiach is not here yet. just remember that I can walk into any police station and say the exact same thing about you. Think of it as if it’s your life, would you be so quick to accuse??
And to whoever posted his name – shame on you. If he turns out innocent you have blood on your hands.
I find it intresting that when it came to the case of the child whose life was possibly being threatened by a mother who was allegedly starving him to death, the oylam here feels that the mother should never have been arrested.
WHen it comes to this case, the oylam is happy that the guy was arrested.
When it comes to the mother, there is video and circumstantial evidence.
Yet the oylam is upset with her being arrested.
Personally, I think they both deserved to be arrested.
But, for he rest of you, what’s the chiluk?
Because the woman was arrested by the treife medinah and the man here was arrested by US authorities?
Or is it that starving a child deserves less protection from a (possibly insane) Yiddishe Mama?
I just got home and decided to catch up on the happenings of the day by reading VIN. I came across this bittersweet story, bitter for what happened and sweet (not really) that the victim had the courage to come forward so he can help himself and save who knows how many other future victims.
As I am reading the comments I couldn’t read any further than #34 . How dare you ask such personal questions from Dr. Lipner or anyone else for that matter? My rapist who raped many others is married and is a father and has a lot of children, his qualification? He is a rapist. What does that have to do with one another? Can’t you read English? He gave his qualifications. He is a PHD and has years of experience with victims and perpetrators.
I had the privilege to meet and speak to Dr. Lipner on many occasions. I know Dr Lipner as a professional not as a married person, I know him as caring not as a single person, I know him as one of the most active fighter against this evil not as being a father, I know him as someone who speaks what he believes not as not being a father. Shame on you lowlife.
Thanks to Dr. Lipner and his friend. Only because of their endless activism we heard stories in the last couple of months of victims coming out against their abusers. You may or may not agree with him, you can even criticize him but his sincerity can not be questioned.
I would like to ask you a few questions and sign your name please.
Are you a rapist? Are you a child molester? Do you have child porn stashed on your computer? Lowlife! What is your qualification exactly?
Pinny
#1 . I do not would like to hear what would you say if the victim was one of your kids,cv
this is worse than maddoff!
money comes and go
but this neshama was distryed by the abuser
To # 82 the story says may not be near children. No worry.
Is he a bochur or married, If Bochur why melamed in OC the Rambam doesn’t allow Bochurim to be melamdim, & in Lakewood ther are enough Avreichim?
[no descrimination Chas veshalom against bochurim , just halchic view.]
Why are people posting names?
The other Moisad I thought closed down, because of problems[strike]. What is the almona story & closing moisad story?
Strange posters here.
Unbelievable how this topic bring all worms out of the woodwork 100 posts within an hour.
What is the attraction to this sick sadness are so many ..?
Good move going to the police. When I was a 13 year old boy a bochur from a older grade did something like this to me. I told my parents who told the rosh hayishiva and the boy was thrown out of the yishiva. But that is it, he moved on went to a different yishiva who knows what he did there?? While I had to live with the feeling of someone using me because i was a good Yiddish boy and was naive . Baruch Hashem I am now married and I have the best wife in the world, but I still sometimes think that if I ever see this menuvel I will brake his legs. So I just want to say to anyone out there that had a story like this to come out and don’t let them get away with this.
1.Two case histories that i know first hand
2.A bochur in Lkwd.was having a hard time with a shidduch.Boruch hashem after several years he met his zivug and is happily married.I was his shomer the day before his chasunah and we had lengthy discussions,one of which was what took so long.What came out was how he was abused by three seperate bochurim in a very famous yeshiva.I spoke to his parents about this,they are in denial,an dthis is 10 years later.I begged him to go to the police,he said one of them was recently arrested,but he does not want his wife to know what he went through.I understand him and this is the problem.The humiliation that one has by going public is severe.
3.Case number 2-a very respected family in the community were gathered at a family get together when an 8 year old started talking about a certain relative who likes to…….Iit is nivul peh to even finish the statement.So do u go to the police on your brother/brother in law/husband?It is a catch 22 situationOur rabanim are very aware of this and there are no simple answers
4.A member of the community attempted to abuse my 11 year old,who boruch hashem ran away from him.I went to the police to discuss it.I was told what my son would go throgh in order to prosecute this guy,believe me it was not worth it,especially since he was not sucessful.I did inform neighbors and lambasted those who knew and did not publicize it.I also wanted to beat the guy up,but he is a real sick person who needs help.Venting my anger woulkd not help allthough if we adopted a zero tolerance attitude it would be a detterent
5.I remember 28 years ago when Mondorowitz ran away to Israel and I would see him at the kosel,it made me sick.But Maran Hagadol Harav Auerbach ztl said without bais din u can not do anything.We must have a bais din that would convene on a moments notice ,collect the evidence and not schlep out with three hazmanus and holchin acarey hanitva,but i do not know if they have such a koach.The torah guides us and many times sad and unfortunate things happen and we are helpless.
To all thos ewho say innocent until proven guilty,by who,by a jury of losers?The one that found O.J.innocent?The jury system is a joke and most people plea bargain
Have rachmunis on his parents – they are saints.
Good move going to the police. When I was a 13 year old boy a bochur from a older grade did something like this to me. I told my parents who told the rosh hayishiva and the boy was thrown out of the yishiva. But that is it, he moved on went to a different yishiva who knows what he did there?? While I had to live with the feeling of someone using me because i was a good Yiddish boy and was naive . Baruch Hashem I am now married and I have the best wife in the world, but I still sometimes think that if I ever see this menuvel I will brake his legs. So I just want to say to anyone out there that had a story like this to come out and don’t let them get away with this.
I know him, he is a good person, Yorei shomayim, and very hard to believe this story. He has the right to a future, and untill we know this as a true fact we cannot believe this! do we have Eidim? maybe there was a fight between this boy and him, and the boy thought to take real revenge who knows? this person, is a briliant teacher, very responsible, very big into Haskofo, and this cannot be true. let’s be mechazek in Hilchos loshon Hora, and may this be a Zechus for Klal Yisroel and may Hashem bring Moshiachin these days of Churban Habayis.